H.onest with yourself
E.ngage your life positively and fully.
R.espect yourself and others
O.pen to all that can be no matter what has been)
Some many of us rip ourselves apart because of things we have said , done etc and even refuse to forgive ourselves and move on
If G-d granted has you another day , for what you have said or done you may have a price to pay, however you still have an opportunity to forge a new way, a new life mainstay
One thing is clear if you do not clear your mind to move on what you have said or done will define you and be your wake
So maybe as hard as it may be, understand ,everyone has thoughts and urges, some act upon them and then stop, some do not act upon them at all but still tear themselves up over the mere thought.
When you do not move on you stay in prison , forgiving yourself does not excuse yourself it clears your mind to do some good no matter how much bad you think you have done.
People who have something to conquer feel more fulfilled then those who have never had to fight themselves or for themselves so no matter the mask see the hero in the mirror and fight hard because your fight brings the world much blessing and light.